There is no 'I' in Coach

Most of the time, the term "there is no 'I in team' is used. The importance of putting the communal benefit ahead of personal glory is emphasised across all team-building situations. Sport is no different. As you become accustomed to reading these blogs, you will notice that they usually take the shape of a personal reflection. A reflection in which I shall expose myself to what you make of me. These discussions will be a reflection of our methods, an inquiry on key issues, and, why not, a challenge to our own values and beliefs. A brief disclaimer: I am not perfect, and I am not flawless. I'm writing not from a position of supremacy, but as someone who wants to share my process of questioning and reflecting our practices. 

Sports introduce us to persons whose stature and success are out of the realm of possibility. Envy grows when you see world-class athletes and coaches on top and enjoy the sweet fruits of success. Sports provide an amazing sense of accomplishment. The feeling they provide is difficult to put into words. When you are successful, the elation you feel makes you feel on top of the world. On the other end of the scale, perceived failure makes you feel as if the world has come to an end.

I recall beginning to coach when I was just 15 years old. I remember helping out with the U6s as they played their first friendly of the season against Pieta (Maltese Football Academy). This was possibly their first friendly match in their lives. It was also my first friendly as a coach. A coach who had to stop from football due to personal circumstances and wished to return to the game in another capacity. Regardless, this was my Champions League Final. I recall the anxiety I felt and the pressure I put on myself for a 5v5 between five-year-olds. Looking back 11 years, I am embarrassed by my actions. I'd made it all about myself. What an idiot I was.

I rapidly realised that my purpose as a coach is not to achieve personal glory or to win. I discovered that I am a coach who is a part of these athletes' development, in my case, footballers. I am a part of these kids' journey of discovering their passion for the sport, meeting new people, and becoming a part of their community.

• How could I make this about myself?

• How could I put my ego above the growth of these children? These kids enjoyment? What about these youngsters' well-being?

• Do I want to brag about winning without allowing all of the participants to participate?

• How could I make it about myself when my job is supposed to make it about them?

I challenge all coaches out there to answer these questions. Put yourself in the position of the athletes and ask yourself, "What would I want from my coach?" Would I rather that my coach do what is best for me or for him/her?

Be the best coach in the world, but not for yourself; instead, be the best coach for THEM.